Ask R U OK? Any Day because life happens every day.

Life’s ups and downs impact all of us, so chances are someone you know might be struggling.

Research by R U OK? indicates that those who are regularly asked, 'are you OK?' report increased feelings of wellbeing. Moreover, a third of Australians say they've been asking others more often over the past year. That means many of us are already showing up for others in meaningful ways, but when it comes to conversations about how we’re really going, some people are less confident than others. 

It’s natural to feel a little hesitant, but the good news is nine in ten Australians report feeling grateful, supported and cared for when someone genuinely asks them if they're OK - and that’s a good reason to give it a go. 

4 Steps That Could Change a Life:

Ask: R U OK?

• Be friendly, relaxed and engaged
• Help them open up with questions like "How are you going?" or "What's been happening?"
• Mention things that have made you concerned for them, like "You seem less talkative than usual. Are you okay?"

Listen with an open mind

• Be considerate, take what the person says seriously and don't rush the conversation
• Don't judge
• If the person needs time to think, allow it and just sit with them
• Encourage them to explain things in-depth
• Demonstrate that you've heard what they've said by repeating things back to them and ask if you've understood

Encourage Action

• Ask: "How can I support you?"
• Encourage self-care by asking: "What's something you can do for yourself right now that's enjoyable or relaxing?"
• Explore possible supports the person could utilise, like family, friends, Lifeline and Beyond Blue
• If they've been exhibiting a low mood for more than 2 weeks or is at risk, contact a professional as soon as you can

Check In

• Call the person soon after your conversation
• Ask them if they've found ways to manage the situation. If they haven't don't judge them. Encourage them again
• Stay in touch and support them. Genuine concern can make a big difference

If Someone Needs Expert Help...

Some conversations are too big for family and friends to take on alone. If someone's been really low for more than 2 weeks - or is at risk - please contact a professional as soon as you can: